What exactly does being a leader look like? The Church is made up of so many people and this question could be answered in a million different ways. At Vineyard Columbus, we want to see our leaders grow and flourish and for us, a leader is a learner, listener, and laborer.
Being a learner looks like committing yourself to growth and healthy spiritual maturing. Completing leader training is necessary to be a leader, but learning should be an ongoing process. In 1 Peter 2:2 it is spoken that “Like newborn babies, crave pure spiritual milk, so that by it you may grow up in your salvation, now that you have tasted that the Lord is good.” As a leader your goal should be to become more like Jesus, growing in Him.
Leaders listen. Listening to the Holy Spirit, each other, your leaders, and our culture are key parts of being a leader. Listening includes waiting and can point us to important things that someone may be trying to communicate. It also opens us up to more of what God has for us and those around us. A good way to begin a conversation with someone in your group is by asking open ended questions and using phrases such as, “what I’m hearing you say is…” and paraphrasing what you just heard to clarify. This provides space for people to feel truly listened to and understood, while also leaving room for clarification if needed. You also see this when we practice ministry time. For example, taking a few minutes to wait in silence before or after a prayer to listen for what God might be communicating.
Healthy leaders are also laborers. This means that you understand the importance of working hard, but also resting. We see this so clearly in Genesis when rest is part of creation. It is not separate from it but occurs on the seventh day. Laboring well can look like some planning – what is the goal or direction of your small group? Do you have rhythms of rest and restoration as you connect and create? What is the desired commitment level for attendees?
These are just a few questions you can be asking yourself as you process being a healthy leader.
Chances are you are already doing these three things in some capacity in your own life. Leading a small group means showing up and inviting God into these practices with a group of people. The most beautiful example already came to earth, living with us, taking our brokenness upon himself so that each one of us may have life. John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only son so that whoever believes in Him, may not die, but have eternal life.” God has given us amazing tools to lead well because he loves us deeply. In turn, we are able to love others as He loved us first.
