“We-lationship” Suggestions


  1. Set aside 10-15 minutes once in a while to hear people share their testimonies – What has God done in your life? What is he doing now? Perhaps review with people beforehand to gain a full understanding into what they hope to say. Leaders consider going first to establish a standard for how long to share.
  2. Use Ice breakers to get people talking. Everyone is then invited to say something at the beginning of the group. This can also be a really important time to get everyone’s name and to have some fun together.
  3. Occasionally, plan a meal together before group begins to make room for extended fellowship. This is a great way to deepen the sense of community and togetherness.
  4. Find out what people have in common – biking, camping, eating out, playing games, taking a class together – whatever would be fun for your group to do together, plan a night/day and do it.
  5. Try to coordinate which service you will attend most weekends and then sit together, which requires getting people’s birthday information.
  6. Celebrate people’s birthdays – which requires getting people’s birthday information.
  7. Plan a movie night or hangout night outside of group time. Consider splitting up girls and guys if you’re a coed group.
  8. Plan a weekend spiritual retreat. Vineyard has a retreat house small group leaders can use for free called Crooked Creek Retreat Center.
  9. Celebrate a holiday together – 4th of July, Labor Day, etc. 
  10. Encourage other mature Christians in your group to initiate relationships with newer or younger Christians in your group. Not only will that deepen relationships between members of the group (rather than have all group relationships focused around the leader(s)) it also provides a healthy context to indentify new leaders, encourage other’s gifts, and helps to spread care beyond the leader(s) thereby sharing the burden of leading.